Showing posts with label crossdressing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label crossdressing. Show all posts
Do You Feel Guilty About Crossdressing or Being Transgender?
Do You Feel Guilty About Crossdressing or Being Transgender?
Do you feel guilty about crossdressing or being transgender? Sadly, many of “my girls” tell me that they do.
If you feel you have to lie or sneak around to keep your feminine side hidden, I can understand the conflict.
But let’s get one thing straight – there’s nothing wrong with crossdressing or being transgender. Period.
We live in a world with very defined gender roles. Unfortunately, these roles are even more rigid for males.
It’s OK for women to express their masculinity by dressing like tomboys or by acting strong and assertive. But if a guy looks or acts feminine, he’s labeled as weird, weak, or gay.
The underlying message is that it’s OK to be masculine (even if you’re a woman), but femininity is something to be ashamed of.
What the heck!?
Society is slowing changing, but the time to reject these outdated messages is NOW.
There’s no shame in changing your gender to match who you are on the inside either!
I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic…
Do you struggle with guilt or is it a non-issue for you? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Help! My Husband is a Crossdresser
Help! My Husband is a Crossdresser
So you’ve discovered that your husband is a crossdresser. Maybe you stumbled across their hidden cache of clothing and makeup, or after years of bottling up a secret which they thought was shameful they couldn’t take it any longer and revealed it to you. Maybe you’re scared and confused about what this means about him, and what it means about your relationship. Maybe you’re concerned that having hidden something for so long, you don’t know who he is, or maybe you’re worried that if he’s been able to hide this from you, what else could he be hiding?
It’s very easy to get carried away with these thoughts and let your imagination run wild with possibilities – but the only thing that will do is make things worse. The first thing you should do is stop and take a breath. More than likely, things aren’t as bad as you might think!
Is he gay?
Almost certainly not. The majority of crossdressers are straight. Crossdressing has no correlation with sexuality. It could be conceivable that he’s bisexual or bi-curious, but don’t forget that he married you for a reason.
Why does he do it? What does he get out of it?
This varies a lot. There are some people who do it for sexual gratification – maybe it’s just something he gets off on, and that’s the end of it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You might be ok with that, or you might not – but remember, it probably doesn’t affect how he feels about you!
For other people, dressing up can be just a way of expressing some feminine aspect of their personality. Think of it as the male equivalent of being a tomboy.
And then for others, they may internally feel like they should have been born with a female body.
Does he want to be a woman?
Possibly. This you can only find out by talking to each other. It’s certainly true that some people go from being a crossdresser to realising and accepting that they are transgender, but this is not a universal path. Just because you have discovered that your husband likes to wear women’s clothes does not mean he’s suddenly going to transition. Asking about the reasons as to why he does it will give you a much clearer idea.
Who have I married?
It’s worth bearing in mind that this is who they are, and who they have always been. Your husband has not changed – only your opinion of him might have altered given this new information. You might feel as though you’ve been tricked into marrying someone without knowing everything about them, and I can’t even imagine what that must feel like, which is why I always encourage people to try to accept this part of their lives, and to share it with their partners.
Why didn’t he tell me this?
The reason he didn’t tell you is probably because he’s felt ashamed about it his whole life. For so many of us, we’re told that being men in our society means only doing manly things and conforming to the standard idea of what it means to be a man – certainly not acting in any way deemed feminine. Girly-men have been seen as jokes or a source of amusement. Confronted with a reality which would mock and ridicule you for being open about it, many men will hide or totally bury this part of them, causing depression and self-loathing.
How far does he want to go?
This is hard to say without asking him. It’s possible that maybe he wants to just do it indoors, or possibly go out while dressed. Some people are perfectly happy keeping it at home, and others feel like they need to be themselves not hidden away in a room somewhere.
So what next?
The best thing you can do is talk about it. Whether that’s with each-other, or with the help of a couples’ therapist, or a gender therapist if need be. If your husband doesn’t know that you’ve found out his secret, finding a way to sit him down and approach it gently would be advisable.
To those of you who are into it, or don’t mind it – that’s awesome! For him, it’ll be great to have someone to talk to about it and share all sorts of things with, and for you, you might find that you suddenly have a lot more common interests!
To those of you who find it disgusting – you may have a harder road ahead of you. It’s completely understandable if you feel this way, since this is not something you signed up for. But bear in mind that part of the reason why he’s been hiding it for so long is because he loves you, and doesn’t want to lose you, fearing how you might react.
I will say this over and over again: This is not something we chose. If I could’ve just turned it off years and years ago, I would have, because due to the way society views people like us, it’s been a difficult journey full of shame and guilt. But having a partner who loves us and accepts us as we are… that can make your marriage even stronger.
If you still have any questions, please feel free to ask and I will be more than happy to reply to you privately and anonymously, without judgement.
Tips For Sexy Legs
Some Tips For Sexy Amazing legs :
Nothing is hotter than a great pair of legs. That means you’re in luck since most crossdressers and transgender women have gorgeous, defined legs. (I’m jealous!)
How can you make your legs your BEST feminine asset?
1) Shaving
Shave. An hour or so before bedtime, take a shower and shave normally. Make sure every single hair on your legs is gone. Dry off as usual but before you get dressed, follow the next steps.
2) Smooth the legs
Smooth the legs. Shaving bumps? Apply cocoa butter to your legs from ankle to bikini line. Apply enough to make them shine. Don't leave an inch dry.
3) Add some color
Smooth, tanned legs are SEXY legs. But what if you have pale legs marred with scars, bruises, or visible veins?
Pantyhose are one option. The other option is to add color and cover imperfections with a tan (either a real tan or a spray tan) or leg makeup.
4) Choose the right skirt length
When it comes to showing off your legs in a skirt, shorter is NOT always better. Here are 3 tips for choosing the right skirt length:
- Try the finger length test: Stand up straight and put your arms to your side. If your fingertips fall past the hem of your skirt, it’s too short.
- You should also avoid skirts that are too long. Calf length skirts tend to look dowdy – besides, we want to see those gorgeous gams!
- The most flattering skirt lengths are from mid thigh to just above or just below the knee.
5) Show off your legs in sexy shoes
The right shoes can take your legs from good to great. Anything goes as long as you keep these two tips in mind:
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How to Become a Sexy Crossdressers:
How to Become a Sexy Crossdressers:
So readers you wanna be a sexy & hot crossdresser like a real woman her is a few tips :
Want to know the secret to becoming a sexy crossdresser?
Here’s what it’s NOT:
- Wearing super short skirts.
- Wear Stripper heels.
- Putting on huge breast forms looks great.
- Pouting your lips and sticking your butt out.
True sexiness is a state of mind if you feel you are sexy then you are its all depends on your mind 7 thinking.
There are lots of small things you can do to boost your feminine sex appeal – without crossing the line from sexy to slutty.
Here are the few tips you can follow :
1. Wear sexy lingerie
It’s hard NOT to feel sexy in a pretty bra and panties.
Wearing something sexy will make you feel sexy. That’s great in and of itself, but feeling sexy also improves your confidence and improved confidence means better success in all aspects of your life.
You should also get rid of any lingerie that doesn’t add to your sex appeal. This includes anything that’s worn out or that doesn’t fit properly. If it doesn’t make you feel hot, don’t keep it!
Gorgeous lingerie puts you back in touch with your sensuality.
2 The second one is that you should always Make seductive eye contact:
The way you make eye contact communicates your level of confidence, femininity, and sex appeal.
It’s important to make eye contact, but at the same time, you don’t want to overdo it.
Here are 3 seductive eye contact skills to practice:
- Look people in the eye, but break contact every 5 seconds or so. Staring too intensely can creep people out.
- Try the triangle technique. When you are listening to somebody, look at one eye for 5 seconds, then the other eye for 5 seconds, and finally the mouth for 5 seconds. Continue rotating your gaze in this pattern.
- Look from the side. To appear more flirtatious, try a sideways glance instead of looking at somebody straight on. Do this while smiling and raising the eyebrows slightly.
3. Try a sexy workout
A fit, toned body is undeniably sexy. But that doesn’t mean you need to spend hours on a boring treadmill.
Instead, why not try a “sexy workout?”
Belly dancing, pole dancing, or cardio striptease will help you burn calories while channeling your inner seductress. These workouts will also help you achieve more feminine and fluid body movements.
4. Wear red
Color is a huge part of the impression you make on people. Each color has a meaning that is communicated on a subconscious level.
Without a doubt, RED is the sexiest color of all!
Red is associated with passion, desire, and love – so wear red to increase your feminine sex appeal. Even a few touches of red (like a red bag or heels) will put you in touch with your sensuous side.
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Foods that make your hair grow faster, denser and healthier:
Foods that make your hair grow faster, denser and healthier:
What foods make your hair grow faster? Just like the rest of your body, your hair needs vitamins, minerals and nourishment, for it to be able to grow and stay healthy. Changing your diet to make your hair grow thicker and longer may not give you instant results, but it will give you long lasting ones. Here are ten foods that you can add to your healthy and balanced diet that are known to promote the growth of thick, long and healthy hair:
1. Eggs – wonderful, versatile source of protein
Your hair is basically made up of protein, and eggs are a fantastic and versatile source of protein. So, including eggs into your diet is another good tip on how to make your hair grow faster. Chicken and duck eggs contain minerals, such as sulphur, iron and zinc, which are also needed for healthy hair growth.
2. Beta-carotene in sweet potatoes
You also need plenty vitamin A for good hair growth. Every cell in your body, in fact, needs vitamin A and it also helps in the production of the natural oils in your scalp, so it will stop your head from becoming dry and itchy. Sweet potatoes are an excellent source of beta-carotene, which the body converts into vitamin A, as also are carrots and pumpkin.
3. Salmon – a true superstar of hair-healthy foods
How to make your hair grow faster? Eat more salmon! Salmon is a true superstar in our list of foods for long and thick hair. Salmon contains plenty of the Omega-3 fatty acids that your hair needs for becoming healthier, thicker and glossier, so salmon is the perfect healthy hair growth food to add to your diet.
4. Avocado – fabulous source of natural fatty acids
Avocados are another great source of amazing, natural fatty acids. Great on their own, with salads or in sandwiches, avocados are packed with the good fats that your body and hair need and, you can always use them in a hair mask too, if you don’t feel like eating them.
5. Oysters – the treasure house of zinc
A lack of zinc in your diet can lead to hair loss and oysters are very rich in zinc, as well as they contain plenty of protein. If you don’t like the taste of oysters, you can also get zinc from fortified breakfast cereals and whole grain bread.
6. Vitamin C rich blueberries, kiwis, limes, strawberries, lemons and oranges
Fresh fruit, such as blueberries, limes, strawberries, kiwis and oranges contain lots of vitamin C, and your hair really does need vitamin C, because it plays a vital role in the blood circulation in the tiny vessels that feed your hair follicles. With insufficient vitamin C content in your diet, your hair is more vulnerable to breakage. Brussels sprouts are also particularly rich in Vitamin C.
7. Iron, zinc and protein in lean red meats
A lack of iron in your diet can also be a cause of thinning hair. Including lean red meat, such as beef, veal and lamb in your balanced diet will provide you with both protein and the essential mineral – iron.
8. Get your greens: spinach, collards, Brussels sprouts, kale and broccoli
Another good suggestion on how to make your hair grow faster is to include into your healthy diet fresh green leafy vegetables, like spinach, collards, kale, Brussels sprouts and broccoli, which are a great source of the vitamins and minerals that are needed for healthy hair growth. Spinach and Brussels sprouts, in particular, are a wonderful source of beta carotene, iron and vitamin C, all of which will feed and nourish your hair and promote a healthy supply of blood to the hair follicles.
9. Hair-healthy nuts: walnuts, cashews, butternuts, almonds, macadamia nuts, pecans and hazelnuts
Walnuts, cashews and butternuts contain a significant amount of Omega-3 fatty acids and are also rich in vitamins and biotin, which helps make your hair grow faster, thicker and longer, as well as to protect the cells of your hair from the sun. Almonds also are very high in biotin. You can eat walnuts, cashews, butternuts and almonds as a snack, use walnut or almond oil as a salad dressing or as a cooking oil, to reap all the benefits that these nuts have to offer. Macadamia nuts, pecans and hazelnuts are also very hair-healthy, but avoid buying them covered in sugar, chocolate or salt.
10. Protein in lean turkey, duck, emu or chicken
To get all the protein that your hair needs to grow long and thick, poultry is a great alternative to red meat. Chicken, duck, emu and turkey provide all the building blocks that your hair needs to grow healthier and denser, and their meet also contains a good supply of iron and zinc.
There are many other foods that help your hair grow faster and thicker. Hair is almost all protein, so make sure to include protein-rich food in your healthy and balanced diet.
How to make your hair grow faster naturally? What are your favorite foods and products that make hair grow faster and healthier?
Final hair tips:
And finally, always be gentle with your hair, because rough treatment can pull hair out or break it. Your hair is more fragile when it’s wet, so dry your locks gently with a towel and avoid rough brushing too.
Another thing to remember, is that hair products might make your hair look great at the time, but the more you use them, the more damage you do to your locks. Your hair needs to be able to breathe, to grow and so, the less product that you use, the healthier your hair will be.
It’s a myth that cutting your locks regularly will make your hair grow faster; it makes no difference at all! The fact is though, if you trim your hair regularly, it will remove any damaged or split ends early, before the damage can spread further up the strands of your hair. This will mean that, overall, you will have to cut off less hair.
Now, when you know some tips on how to make your hair grow faster, try, experiment, play, but most impertinently, love yourself!
What is your favorite secret on how to accelerate hair growth? Please, share your thoughts and hair tips in the comment section below.
Stay beautiful, shine everywhere, shine always!
Misconceptions on Crossdressing ?
Misconceptions on Crossdressing ?
Misconception 1: Crossdressers Begin Their Behavior in Adulthood
Some people who simply do not understand the act of crossdressing cannot fathom the idea that the need to do so begins at a young age. It is easier for these types of people to assume that it begins in adulthood. However, the truth is that for most people, especially men, begin to feel the pull towards crossdressing at a young age. Many male children, some as young as 4 or 5 years old, start wearing women’s clothing as a dress-up game. In some cases this behavior stops as they grow older, and in others it continues on into adulthood and becomes a lifelong behavior.
Misconception 2: Crossdressers are Made and Can be Cured
There is no solid proof of this, research is going on towards a genetic predisposal to crossdressing, which brings us to the second part of this misconception. Crossdressing cannot be cured and is not something that needs to be cured-unless of course the individual wishes to stifle their behavior.
Misconception 3: Crossdressers are Drag Queens that Look Like RuPaul
While all drag queens crossdress, not all crossdressers are drag queens. Queens are in a separate category altogether. The typical crossdresser wears the same type of clothing typical women wear; nothing elaborate.
Misconception 4: Crossdressers are Homosexuals and Do Not Like Women
Some homosexuals do crossdress, not all who crossdress are homosexual. The truth is that the majority of Crossdressers are married men who are as attracted to their wives as any typical man. According to many Crossdressers there are several advantages to being a straight crossdresser. The number one advantage is that they tend to become more understanding and sensitive when it comes to the women in their lives. So for some, crossdressing for some men is a way to get in touch with their feminine side and fully experience life.
Crossdressing Tips for Beginners
Crossdressing Tips for Beginners
Crossdressing Tips for Beginners #1 : Foundation
Crossdressing Tips for Beginners#2 : Lipistick
Crossdressing Tips for Beginners#3 : Breast
Crossdressing Tips for Beginners#4 : Shopping
Crossdressing Tips for Beginners#5 : Eye liner
Best Tips for Fuller, More Feminine Lips (Male to Female Transformation Tips)
Best Tips for Fuller, More Feminine Lips (Male to Female Transformation Tips)
Full lips are a symbol of youth and beauty. Women naturally tend to have fuller lips than men, so lush lips can give you a more feminine appearance.For crossdressers and transgender women, this detail can have a big impact on your overall look!
But who wants to risk trout pout with painful, expensive injections?
The good news is that there are some simple, non-invasive ways to plump your pout. Here are 5 ways to get fuller, more feminine lips:
1. Exfoliate your lips
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Dead skin cells on the lips can give you a dry and chapped look. Exfoliation removes the dead cells so your lips can hold onto more moisture, giving the lips a more luscious look.
Exfoliation also increases circulation to the lips, making them look fuller.
The easiest way to exfoliate is with a soft toothbrush. Gently brush over the lips to remove dead skin cells and follow with lip balm to hydrate. Do this once or twice per week.
2. Try a lip pump
There are a number of devices out there that can temporary plump the lips using suction to draw fluid to the area. This creates a plumping effect that can last for several hours. Some examples:
- Luscious Lips
- CandyLipz
- Fullips.
The drawback to these devices is that they can cause bruising or even serious injury if they aren’t used correctly. They can also leave unattractive red marks on the face.
If you decide to try a lip pump, be sure to follow the instructions carefully.
3. Boost collagen
Collagen is a protein in your body that helps keep the skin and lips plump and smooth. As you age, your body produces less collagen, which can lead to thinner lips and more wrinkles.
Luckily, there are ways to increase collagen naturally:
- Take a collagen supplement. These are inexpensive and easy to find in any health food store.
- If you’re not a fan of pills, try eating bone broth soups or fruits and vegetables with vitamin C. These foods support natural collagen production.
4. Enhance your lips with makeup
The right makeup techniques can work wonders on your lips. Remember, there’s an art to applying makeup! It’s all too easy to cross the line into artificial looking clown lips.
5. Use a lip plumper
There are loads of cosmetic lip plumpers on the market — and some of them actually work!
The best lip plumpers contain ingredients like hyaluronic acid to draw moisture to the lips or peptides that increase collagen. These plumpers create lasting results without causing long term damage.
You should avoid products that contain irritating ingredients like cinnamon or cayenne. These ingredients cause swelling which make the lips look fuller, but they dry the skin out in the long run.
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The Top Mistakes of Male to Female Makeup
The Top Mistakes of Male to Female Makeup
Makeup can have an amazing impact on your appearance – IF you apply it correctly.
Unfortunately, makeup is the single skill “my girls” tell me they struggle with most.
I know you want to be your most beautiful femme self – and the first step to achieving this is to avoid these common male to female makeup mistakes:
1. Wearing too much makeup
Hands down, the biggest mistake I see crossdressers and transgender women make is wearing too much makeup.
Makeup is meant to conceal what you don’t want people to see and highlight what you DO want them to see.
If you wear too much makeup, you highlight EVERYTHING – and just attract the wrong kind of attention to yourself.
Rule #1 is to use a light touch when applying your makeup.
2. Applying full coverage foundation on your entire face
Even if you have problem areas you want to hide, there’s no reason to cover your entire face with thick foundation.
All this does is make it look like you are wearing a mask – NOT a flattering look.
Instead, use full coverage makeup where you need it (like on the beard area) and apply a lighter foundation everywhere else.
3. Using poor makeup application technique
When it comes to makeup, technique matters. Some examples of poor makeup application technique include:
- Applying eyeliner unevenly or too far away from the eyelashes
- Not blending your makeup properly
- Applying clumpy mascara
If your makeup skills are lacking, book a lesson with a makeup artist or look for makeup tutorials on YouTube.
Either way, the REAL secret is practice, practice, and more practice!
4. Not selecting the right makeup shades
Choosing the right makeup shades is just as important as your makeup application technique.
In fact, the wrong colors can give you a harsh and masculinized appearance faster than anything else.
The most important thing to consider is your natural coloring. For example:
- People with lighter hair and skin look best in low intensity colors (like soft brown, blue, pink, coral, etc.).
- People with darker hair and skin look best in high intensity colors (like deep brown, black, blue, red, etc.).
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Besides your natural coloring, you should also consider the occasion and time of day when choosing your makeup colors. Everybody looks better in higher intensity makeup at night when the lights are low.
And last but not least, your makeup colors should harmonize with the color of your clothes.
5. Not taking good care of your skin
Your face is literally the canvas for your makeup. If you have dry, rough skin, it WILL show through.
Also keep in mind that male skin tends to be rougher than female skin (due to lower estrogen levels). That means good skin care is critical.
Care for your skin by using a gentle cleanser, moisturizing daily, using sunscreen, drinking lots of water, and getting enough sleep.
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